When I arrived in the class, I sat toward the door and
watched as parents interacted with the staff.
Elaine (fictitious name) happened to be in early because the lead
teacher had to be out of school for the morning to complete some end-of-year
meetings so this gave me the opportunity to watch her carefully. I watched as she got down to each student’s
level and then spent time greeting and mingling with the parents. I could immediately tell that the parents
were comfortable with her and that led me to ask her what her secret was. I was not prepared for the answer.
Elaine stated that she had raised three children on her own
after her husband was killed in an automobile accident. He left her with no life insurance, no savings,
and a ton of debt. As a result, she lost
her house, her car, her boat, and all the toys that she once thought were so
important. This experience thrust her
into poverty and she worked tirelessly to provide for her family. She discussed how working two jobs meant
needing a babysitter when the kids got home from school. To pay for that babysitter, she ended up
cleaning houses on the weekends. This is
how poverty works she said, you work to work, you work to survive.
This discussion led to two very important insights about my
research topic. One, just like there is
no general example for wealth, there is no general example for poverty and two,
when talking with parents, it is imperative to do so openly so they do not feel
like you are judging them. Elaine showed
me an excellent example of how to treat parents so they feel like I understand
their situations.